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Overcoming Resistance

Moonday Mania

a blog for the procrastinator in all of us

“Resistance is futile.” That’s what the Borg say. It’s one of Star Trek’s most famous lines. And usually we’re on the side of the resistors, the rebels, the fighters, the good guys. But when we talk about resistance in ourselves we need to become the Borg—we need to target resistance and root it out.

Resistance for a writer comes in many forms, but mostly it’s how and why we procrastinate doing something we love to do, write. Everyone has resistance. I see it in my kids when they have something they aren’t confident of doing. I have it myself every time I have to make a doctor’s appointment. I don’t know why, but I don’t like making doctor’s appointments.

So I wait…

I put it off…

That’s resistance.

But how do we overcome it? How do we stop procrastinating?

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Climb those mountains of resistance.

In June I attended my Colorado Romance Writer’s chapter meeting and our workshop was put on by author Sandra Kerns. Sandra is my guest this week on Whimsical Wednesdays, so be sure to hop back over here and check out her blog telling you all about the cool research she had to do for her latest romantic suspense, Her Master Diver.

This is the description we had for the meeting. Now I grew up in Boulder, Colorado. If you needed motivation, affirmations, or your karma hijacked, that was the place to find out information. But I checked out the blurb:

“All the World is a Story – Tell Yours with Confidence.”

This is not your average talk about the advantages of critique groups/writing organizations/contests, etc. Here Sandra will share, and ask you share in return, issues that stop writers dead in their tracks and pull them away from their writing.

Writer’s need creative and affirming ways to stay motivated, in their seats, and doing what they love – aka writing! Sandra will offer ways she’s found that work for her – and others – to overcome issues we writers face every day.

I didn’t know if I’d get something out of it, but boy was it timely for me. If you’ve been reading my blogs lately, you’ll know I’m mired deeply into resistance. (You can read about it HERE and HERE.) Sandra had a terrific workshop based on using affirmations to get out of our writing issues.

Now, like I said, I grew up in Boulder and I knew all about affirmations, but I never thought to apply it this tightly to my writing. See, fellow touchy-feeley people, sometimes the universe sends you what you need when you need it. And this was it for me.

So I’ve started using affirmations to get me back on track. Here’s an example. Using Sandra’s technique I chose one issue I have been struggling with: that I don’t think I have time to write. Then I phrased it in a positive manner. “I have plenty of time to write every day.” Now I post this in a prominent place in my house (Sandra suggested the bathroom mirror) and repeat it three times every day.

That’s it. That’s how affirmations work.

And it is working.

I’ve revisited what’s slowing me down in my writing. For me, I know it’s managing my time (see last weeks post on Fall Resolutions) but it’s also doing the right things with the extra time I have. For instance, I’m writing this blog at 4am. I couldn’t sleep. I could be reading a book, or searching the internet for the latest gizmo to buy, but here I am working on my blog. If I’m not sleeping, I might as well be putting the time to good use.

Should I be writing on my latest fantasy romance? Maybe. But I don’t want a project that won’t let me get back to sleep once I’m tired. So I’m writing the blog now and this will give me more time later in the week to work on what I really need to be writing…the book.

How do you overcome resistance? Have you tried affirmations? They work for so many amazing things, not just writing, that I’ve used them to overcome many things in my life. What would you like to tackle in your life?

If you want to read about my issues with my writing goals lately you can click HERE and read the first post in this series.

If you want to read more about resistance and what it is then click HERE and read the second post in this series.

To find out about what I’m doing about my goals click HERE and read all about my Fall Resolutions.

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Author Bio:

Jessica Aspen

Jessica Aspen has always wanted to be spirited away to a world inhabited by elves, were-wolves and sexy men who walk on the dark side of the knife. Luckily, she’s able to explore her fantasy side and delve into new worlds by writing paranormal romance. She loves indulging in dark chocolate, reading eclectic novels, and dreaming of ocean vacations, but instead spends most of her time, writing, walking the dog, and hiking in the Colorado Rockies. You can find out more information and read about Jessica’s paranormal romances at https://jessicaaspen.com/what-hot-new-story-is-jessica-working-on/

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Five Curious Things I’ve learned about blogging

Moonday Mania

a blog about the craft of writing (and maybe blogging)

After seeing my amazing stats on Saturday it occurred to me that It’s officially been a year of blogging and I’ve learned a ton. So today I am sharing some of my hard earned wisdom.

1. Get it done ahead of time

If I put off writing my blog (heck, if I put off doing anything) the universe bites me in the butt. If I think that I can squeeze writing my three to five hundred words into the morning of the day it’s due, that will be the day I will oversleep. With a migraine. And it will be snowing and I’ll have to drive someone to school. And they’ll forget something important. And I’ll run out of gas.

In other words, karma. I have been a procrastinator all my life and now that I am “reformed” if I slip off track, karma will be there like a seven headed snake.

2. Writers block is a myth.

Except when you have a deadline breathing down your neck and not one teeny tiny idea of what to say. Then it’s a huge monster lurking behind your chair, making fun of you. Better to write when the muse appears and do it a week, a month, heck it doesn’t matter how far ahead you are. If you have some extra blogs in the can, you will be a happy blogger.

3. Take care of your friends.

Your friends are the ones you can count on when you need help, and likewise- your friends need you. Right? Right. so drop by their place and leave a comment. Tweet, FB and whatever else you can do to help them along. At the very least remember to say “hi!” on twitter once in a while. You don’t keep good friends by leaving them alone, you need to stay in touch.

4. No matter what kind of thing you have just installed on your website you will want ten others by the end of the day. (But stay away!)

I love everyone’s sites. I love their widgets and plug-ins. I love the rotating book covers that link to Amazon (that they probably make money off of every day). I want them all. But my website capabilities, not to mention my website, do not extend to adding these things gracefully. Take putting a video into the posts. I can now do this. But it took me an hour to figure out how to do it. First I consulted WordPress for Dummies. Well, I need the remedial version. Maybe it’s because I did not sit down and study it from front to back but when I go to consult the book about something that should be simple, it isn’t.

So I look at all the different pages and try to figure it out. And then I go to YouTube and search for it. Inevitably there is some kind soul who has actually reduced the things I’m trying to do to baby steps. And I play and re-wind and take notes. And an hour later I can embed a video. Something that really takes less than thirty seconds and no ability to accomplish.

5. Blogging is easy, and it’s not.

When I first thought about blogging every week I got scared. What would I write? Would anyone care? Can I do this week in and week out?

The answer is yes. Yes I can do this. Yes people care (or at least they pretend to). And yes, it’s scary but then so is everything in life. You can stay home and do nothing or you can venture out into the blogging stream and get your feet wet. So here I am. And it turns out, as long as I don’t wait till the last minute, I can think of things to write. And people do care! (Or they fake it, either way I’m happy.)

Thanks for reading and thanks for the support over the last year. Especially thanks for the encouragement on Little Red Riding Wolf. And do go and enter the contest HERE. Otherwise I will be forced to eat all the chocolate myself and then I won’t fit into the t-shirts.


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