Overcoming Resistance

Moonday Mania

a blog for the procrastinator in all of us

“Resistance is futile.” That’s what the Borg say. It’s one of Star Trek’s most famous lines. And usually we’re on the side of the resistors, the rebels, the fighters, the good guys. But when we talk about resistance in ourselves we need to become the Borg—we need to target resistance and root it out.

Resistance for a writer comes in many forms, but mostly it’s how and why we procrastinate doing something we love to do, write. Everyone has resistance. I see it in my kids when they have something they aren’t confident of doing. I have it myself every time I have to make a doctor’s appointment. I don’t know why, but I don’t like making doctor’s appointments.

So I wait…

I put it off…

That’s resistance.

But how do we overcome it? How do we stop procrastinating?

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Climb those mountains of resistance.

In June I attended my Colorado Romance Writer’s chapter meeting and our workshop was put on by author Sandra Kerns. Sandra is my guest this week on Whimsical Wednesdays, so be sure to hop back over here and check out her blog telling you all about the cool research she had to do for her latest romantic suspense, Her Master Diver.

This is the description we had for the meeting. Now I grew up in Boulder, Colorado. If you needed motivation, affirmations, or your karma hijacked, that was the place to find out information. But I checked out the blurb:

“All the World is a Story – Tell Yours with Confidence.”

This is not your average talk about the advantages of critique groups/writing organizations/contests, etc. Here Sandra will share, and ask you share in return, issues that stop writers dead in their tracks and pull them away from their writing.

Writer’s need creative and affirming ways to stay motivated, in their seats, and doing what they love – aka writing! Sandra will offer ways she’s found that work for her – and others – to overcome issues we writers face every day.

I didn’t know if I’d get something out of it, but boy was it timely for me. If you’ve been reading my blogs lately, you’ll know I’m mired deeply into resistance. (You can read about it HERE and HERE.) Sandra had a terrific workshop based on using affirmations to get out of our writing issues.

Now, like I said, I grew up in Boulder and I knew all about affirmations, but I never thought to apply it this tightly to my writing. See, fellow touchy-feeley people, sometimes the universe sends you what you need when you need it. And this was it for me.

So I’ve started using affirmations to get me back on track. Here’s an example. Using Sandra’s technique I chose one issue I have been struggling with: that I don’t think I have time to write. Then I phrased it in a positive manner. “I have plenty of time to write every day.” Now I post this in a prominent place in my house (Sandra suggested the bathroom mirror) and repeat it three times every day.

That’s it. That’s how affirmations work.

And it is working.

I’ve revisited what’s slowing me down in my writing. For me, I know it’s managing my time (see last weeks post on Fall Resolutions) but it’s also doing the right things with the extra time I have. For instance, I’m writing this blog at 4am. I couldn’t sleep. I could be reading a book, or searching the internet for the latest gizmo to buy, but here I am working on my blog. If I’m not sleeping, I might as well be putting the time to good use.

Should I be writing on my latest fantasy romance? Maybe. But I don’t want a project that won’t let me get back to sleep once I’m tired. So I’m writing the blog now and this will give me more time later in the week to work on what I really need to be writing…the book.

How do you overcome resistance? Have you tried affirmations? They work for so many amazing things, not just writing, that I’ve used them to overcome many things in my life. What would you like to tackle in your life?

If you want to read about my issues with my writing goals lately you can click HERE and read the first post in this series.

If you want to read more about resistance and what it is then click HERE and read the second post in this series.

To find out about what I’m doing about my goals click HERE and read all about my Fall Resolutions.

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Author Bio:

Jessica Aspen

Jessica Aspen has always wanted to be spirited away to a world inhabited by elves, were-wolves and sexy men who walk on the dark side of the knife. Luckily, she’s able to explore her fantasy side and delve into new worlds by writing paranormal romance. She loves indulging in dark chocolate, reading eclectic novels, and dreaming of ocean vacations, but instead spends most of her time, writing, walking the dog, and hiking in the Colorado Rockies. You can find out more information and read about Jessica’s paranormal romances at https://jessicaaspen.com/what-hot-new-story-is-jessica-working-on/

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4 responses to “Overcoming Resistance

  1. You know, the universe DOES send you what you need when you need it! I haven’t been procrastinating (much) lately, but just over the weekend I reminded myself that I write because I love it. Not because I have to, but I want to. Then I switched that up to saying I GET to write. I’m fortunate that every day I have GET to do something I enjoy. I GET to create worlds and entertain people. How awesome is that?

    I love your mantra that every day you have plenty of time to write. I’m going to make a cute sticky note and put that on my laptop. It’s way too easy to allow life to jump in the way and derail us.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  2. Jessica,
    I just noticed your Overcoming Resistance post. Wow, thanks for the accolades. 🙂 Truly, I’m glad my workshop was timely for you and that it helped get you jump started back into writing. Are you still wearing your bracelet?


    • I had a great time at the meeting and learned a lot. I wore the bracelet for the first few months, then I stopped paying attention to it. I took it off and I think when I need another boost I’ll use it again. Thanks for a great workshop!

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